Many of us think that “loving yourself” just means accepting who you are in all of your imperfect perfection, but I believe that it goes way deeper than that. There are other ways to express the value of YOU, and to live a happier life, you have to show love for yourself by:
Knowing what you’re worth, but at the same time understanding that you’re priceless. Do you really, truly understand how special you are? You have been put on this Earth and given many talents and gifts. Don’t downgrade yourself by accepting a job or relationship that doesn’t see the value of who you are.
When I first started writing and blogging professionally, I would take any writing gig I could get even if it paid peanuts because I didn’t understand this concept of knowing my worth. Even when people told me that my writing was excellent I still hesitated to raise my rates. Then I finally realized that my contributions were indeed valuable and there are people out there who are willing to pay me accordingly.
Not allowing other people to suck you into their drama. I am still challenged by this because I love my friends and want to help them, but I’ve now become their dumping ground for all the drama and negativity that they are dealing with. They don’t realize that their drama affects me too. I spend a great deal of time listening to their rants that it takes time away from what I’m trying to do, which is to become a more positive person.
Many people don’t know that they are emotional empaths, meaning that they are very sensitive and take on the energy of people around them. As an empath myself, I become very exhausted when I’m around negativity. But even if you’re not ultra sensitive like I am, do you really want to hear about someone else’s drama day in and day out?
If you are facing challenges right now, I highly recommend venting to a diary. Writing in a diary about my problems definitely helped me during my 20’s when I was going through tough times.
Having the confidence to stand up for what you believe in. I used to be one that didn’t like to rock the boat. I loathed confrontation and didn’t speak up about my beliefs. However, I realize now that your beliefs are part of your authentic self.
Likewise, it’s also important to stand up for yourself. Don’t allow people to tell you what to believe or how to act. What people think about you is none of your business. When you’re too worried about what other people are saying, your self-esteem becomes low, which can lead to depression.
Loving yourself is standing in your own power and not giving that power away to other people. You are meant for greater things. Know it. Feel it.
“You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.”
― Mandy Hale